It had been quite the emotionally draining day already when William came home on one of his tangents. I was looking forward to a good nap to rid me of a headache that had been brewing up all day. Well let’s just say after a short conversation with William, my headache had come into full effect and it left me saying “Lord help me please!”
Recently I signed William up for a fashion show so he could try something different. My boys love to hide behind sports but as their mother I try to encourage them to be well rounded- you know try something new and to push themselves out of their comfort zones. Well this slack mouth 9 year old tried some reverse psychology on me and when he saw it wasn’t working, he hit me with this…
William says, “Why can’t I make my own decisions on whether I want to do the fashion show?” Why can’t I you just respect I don’t want to do it? Then he goes on to say, “Well obviously you don’t love me or think I’m smart because you don’t think I know how to think for myself.”
I teach my children to have a sound mind and to make good choices but I don’t know who this child thought he was trying to manipulate with his word play. If I would have entertained him it could have quickly turned into a heated discussion but I’m the parent and I’m not going there with a 9 year old. But wait it didn’t stop there. William was pushing my buttons at this point and made me rise up bed when this foolishness came out of his mouth. He said, “Well am I supposed to jump off of a bridge because you told me to since you are my mother?”
The end of the discussion was as a parent I try to make good decisions for you even if you don’t agree with them. But as a child you are going to respect them. He stormed off mumbling under his breath. He was lucky I didn’t have a shoe in arms reach to throw at the back of his head from trying to sass me. He did the best thing which was to walk away because regardless of how he felt, deep down inside he knew he is going to do what he was told to do.
This scenario reminded me of my personal relationship with my Heavenly Father. Often times God tells us to do things His way but we are hard headed and want to do things our way. It isn’t until we are faced with opposition that we realize it wasn’t in God’s will and although we don’t understand it, we have to trust God and His way. We have to always remember, our Father knows us the best and He knows what’s best for us.
Have you ever found yourself trying to “argue” with God and find yourself in a world of mess as a result of your disobedience? Like who do we think we are, we don’t run nothing. God is the author and the finisher of our faith, He cares for us so much, and He loves us. I once heard a pastor say that God knows what’s best for us because He knows us better than we know ourselves.
Just as I love my children dearly and want what’s best for them, so does God love us and wants what’s best for you and I! God knows and sees all. There is nothing that He doesn’t know or nowhere He can’t reach, unlike you and I. God has the ability and the strength to help us discern and He has all power to turn a bad situation into a good one. He is constantly showing us grace, extending love, and opening His arms to us to have a more deepened relationship with Him.
Some of us (like children) feel like God should protect us from disasters, we should only experience good things, we should only gain and not loose, and nothing bad should come our way- the Bible never said that and that’s not how God works. The Lord promises that He will be with us every step of the way. He promises to be a light unto our feet. He promises to guide our way. But too often we ignore God’s will and do things our way.
The Bible tells us that God is working for our good. It never said He is working against us. So why as a people are we so defensive? Why do we feel like we need to protect ourselves from God? Why do we try to hoard all of the responsibilities and control every situation? Is that human nature?
God wants us to remain calm and worry free. He wants us to come to Him in prayer and seek Him for peace. He knows our every weaknesses. He knows all of our fears. Oh I bless the name of Jesus this morning because though we are weak, He is strong! There are no limits or boundaries for my God. He is omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscient, transcendent, and immutable.
There are so many things as children, they don’t understand. Same goes for us as children of God. Often times because we can’t see it, reach it, or hear it we struggle to believe. That’s where faith kicks in.
Just as I tried to encourage William to trust the process and have faith, I say the same words to whomever may be reading today’s message. God sees our struggles, He sees our pain, He hears our cry, He knows our burdens…He is saying to us today trust me. God is a healer and He wants to restore and bring peace to your life and bring calmness to your situation.
I dedicate today’s message to my son William. William if you are reading today’s message know that I don’t take lightly or for granted, the joy of being your mother, has brought me. I take full responsibility as a guardian over you and your siblings and I seek God daily to assist me with the task of motherhood. I’m not the best mother, I know. I make mistakes, I know. But I continually go to God in prayer, meditate, fast, and read His word. I know where I fall short every time God doesn’t. I strive to help guide you all to Him so you can have that relationship with Him as well.
You see William your mommy is no angel (you know this). Just as I ask God for forgiveness, I ask Him to give me strength to be the wife, the mother, the person He created me to be. So instead of picking fights about a fashion show, pray for God to continue to guide my path as His child and help me to make the best decisions I can for you and your brothers. Can you do that for me?
William, I know at the age of 9 you have a shorter attention span so I’ll wrap it up with these last few sentences. You are my beautiful baby boy and I want the world to see the beautiful and wonderful creation that you are- God created you that way. You said I don’t know you better than you know yourself but God does. He knows your thoughts, your heart, your worries, your talents, your actions, your hard head at times, He knows your beginning and your end, William God even knows your name.
As God has ministered to me through my child, I pray you were able to take away something from today message. The moral of the story is God knows us best and He knows what’s best for us. We love because He first loved us. God is the answer. God is our peace, our comforter, our shelter, or protector, our provider, our strong tower, He is our all in all. Can’t nobody do you like He can. Have faith in God, trust His way, be obedient to His will.
May God richly bless you. Thank God He knows you best and that He knows you by name!
Amen. William listen to your mom, besides it will be super fun.
Yes it will. He will get it over lol!
No it won’t
I know you don’t agree with this decision but once you get this show behind me you will thank me for pushing you out of your comfort zone. I love you son.
You’re a great mom, and just like we come to see what God is trying to show us at times, our boys eventually will do the same with us as parents. This was a great read! God definitely knows us better than we know ourselves! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you friend, you are a great mother too and I’m glad our boys can grow up and experience life together.
Thanks for taking the time to read it.
It amazes me how you can relate your conflict with William to our relationship with the FATHER! I need to check myself and just do what He says, no matter how I feel, bc it will work out for my good ❤
Amen. Friend I need to do the same thing. I’m ashamed of hard headed I can be at times. Learning to be more obedient to His will.
Oh this brings to mind back in 2009 when I believe I was going into a spiritual warfare with myself. I know I was doing wrong and my conscious was eating at me. I thought in my head how God must feel when we disobey him and fast forward to my kids how I chastise them and yell and scream at them, when are you going to stop and behave and do what I say. I know what’s best for you, I love you and I will not lead you astray or at least try not to And when you listen and behave you will be rewarded. On my quiet days that I no longer have thanks to my TOO Live Crew(kids) when I would get lost in my thoughts, I wondered if our Heavenly Father felt the same way about when we sin… And now that I think about it, it’s the same thing. Only that we get the best reward of Eternal Life with our Heaven Father and our family. I beat myself up about not being a better parent, but my patience has run thin with telling someone 5 or 6 times to do something so that’s why I pull out my belt. There are consequences for our actions. My brother Marc would always say obedience is better than sacrifice. I never really understood what he meant until I kept being disobedient and then the consequences following behind. 1 Samuel 15:22 reads: “And Samuel said, “Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to listen than the fat of rams.” Now I completely understand. I am so Glad that our Heavenly Father is so merciful to us and so forgiving as long as we repent. I try to be the same to my children but sometimes it is so trying. My prayer is as a single parent until the Good Lord send me My Husband is that I try to mold my kids to be Christ like and obedient. Thanks Whitnee
You got me over here shouting girl!! Hallelujah!!!! Knowing my knees can’t take it but I’m still shouting. GLORY HALLELUJAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!