{"id":1413,"date":"2021-01-27T06:35:04","date_gmt":"2021-01-27T11:35:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/inspirationallaroundme.org\/index.php\/2021\/01\/27\/tears-are-cleansing-to-the-soul\/"},"modified":"2021-01-27T06:35:04","modified_gmt":"2021-01-27T11:35:04","slug":"tears-are-cleansing-to-the-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inspirationallaroundme.org\/index.php\/2021\/01\/27\/tears-are-cleansing-to-the-soul\/","title":{"rendered":"Tears are cleansing to the soul."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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As a child I thought tears were a sign of weakness; so I hid my face when I was hurt and needed to cry. I truly had the opinion \u201cbig girls don\u2019t cry.\u201d Just like the saying boys aren\u2019t supposed to cry because they will looked down on like they are \u201csoft\u201d or have \u201ccowardly ways.\u201d Who ever came up with such foolishness? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my adult years I\u2019ve learned that tears are also a form of communication to the Lord. He hears our cry and He answers. He bottles each one of them up. So since I\u2019ve learned this I don\u2019t tell my Kids not to cry (well for my boys don\u2019t cry over little things)- but I let them know it\u2019s okay to cry and they should not have to hide their face or feel embarrassed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To this day every time the kids see me cry they ask, \u201cmommy what\u2019s wrong why are you crying.\u201d One of them will come wipe my tears and reassure me that everything will be alright. And they are so right, everything will be alright after while. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am weary with my moaning; every night I flood my bed with tears; i drench my couch with my weeping. 

Psalm 6:6<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
At one point that was me but by the grace of God I haven\u2019t gone to bed crying lately; for the Lord has allowed me to have sweet rest. And in the morning when I wake I feel refreshed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Daddy would always say, \u201cWhitnee\u2019 there is a time for everything.\u201d And then he would go on. I didn\u2019t know he was planting the word of God in me at such a young age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

Ecclesiastes 3:4<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019ve had my fair share up crying so now I want to dance. It\u2019s time to change the tune to this old record that is been playing for so long. There is a breakthrough on the horizon and like me we all must endure. We have to run this race called life until the wheels fall off. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.

James 1:2<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
The Bible says that God hears the tears of the righteous and He will deliver them from their troubles. I don\u2019t know about you but in the midst of all my groaning and moaning I have to make sure my relationship is right with the Lord because He is the one who can do all things. Yes it\u2019s good to talk to your homegirls or whomever about it but at the end of the day all they can do is listen. Yes they can pray for you but the Lord is the one who has All power in His hands and can change things for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So the same way I prayed for God to have His way when my mom was first diagnosed with throat cancer in February 2020; I ask Him to have His way now in my life. I not once cried out and asked the Lord to take the cancer from my mom because He would not have allowed cancer to take place in her body again if it weren\u2019t to glorify His name. My mom showed such strength and courage and faith in the midst of it all. She showed me what it meant to trust God in all ways. Not one time did she complain or question His decision. Not one time did doubt God\u2019s plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So I think to myself often when I feel like my back is against the wall I have to remember that God is there with me. There is nothing we face alone. Doesn\u2019t that bring such comfort knowing you are not alone?!! So every night when I was crying in silent not to wake Rico or the boys up I felt God\u2019s arm around me; I felt the comfort that only He can give. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I look back over the last few months and all the darts being thrown my way, it amazes me at how God has allowed me to miss each one. Yes I might have gotten a little snag here or there but I\u2019ve never been pinned down by my trials and tribulations. Ain\u2019t God good?!! I mean just make me want to shout. So I\u2019ll shout!!! \ud83d\udc83\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\ude4c\ud83c\udffd\ud83d\udc83\ud83c\udffb\u2600\ufe0f\ud83c\udf89\ud83d\udc83\ud83c\udffb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I was crying; I praised Him! When I felt hopeless; I praised Him knowing He is my hope! When I didn\u2019t know which way to turn; I trusted Him! When I couldn\u2019t see; God guided me. When I went to a dark place mentally; God has been my light in the midst of the darkness. When I felt like I was drowning in sorrow and defeat; God grabbed me and lifted me on every leaning side and told me it\u2019s going to be alright. When I wanted to give up; He gave me the strength and courage to keep on pushing. When I felt like everything was going wrong; He changed my way of thinking. I\u2019m a living witness that God will take care of you if you cast your cares on Him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The songwriter says: <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Come to Jesus, come to Jesus, come to Jesus, just now. Just now, just now. Come to Jesus, just now. Then He says He will save you, He will save you, He will save you just now.<\/p>In the words of Dr. Neal, Pastor of Antioch Baptist Church of Columbia, SC. <\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019ve got joy this morning because I\u2019ve sought the Lord and He has answered me and delivered me from my fears of the unknown. Honesty speaking because I\u2019ve been a control freak for so long it was strange to move the way I\u2019ve been moving. I was my worse enemy in terms of knowing how to step aside so God could work. I didn\u2019t know I had it that bad that I wouldn\u2019t even allow God to have His way in all things in my life. Yes it sound good on paper but was I truly doing. I say I surrender all but then when I fell on my knees or landed on my behind I knew it\u2019s because I\u2019m hadn\u2019t truly given it to God and trusted Him with it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Daddy always said a hard head makes a soft behind. And even though I know most men including mine might like a soft behind can I be honest with you; the soft behind I\u2019m talking about doesn\u2019t feel good one bit. No I\u2019ve been striving to have a rock hard behind for the Lord because I trust Him and I know He won\u2019t lie and He won\u2019t fail me. My daddy is probably looking down saying \u201cabout time Whitnee\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And if so daddy you are so right. It\u2019s about time I stopped being foolish. It was about time that I stepped aside. It was about time to walk the walk for the talk I\u2019ve been talking. I mean IN ALL THINGS. First I had to give up control over the situation with Shanya, when I did I lost contact with her. Sadly we haven\u2019t spoken since September when her mom saw how close we were she cut that line of communication real quick and now Shanya doesn\u2019t have a desire to talk to me or come around. Luckily she still communicates with her dad and brothers but I\u2019ll admit it hurt. It doesn\u2019t hurt anymore though. I know that one day she will come around and I will welcome her with open arms. Until that day comes I\u2019m loving God more and trusting Him every step of the way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Same way with my finances, in my home, with my moms health, in my marriage, etc. I know God has got this so I don\u2019t have to worry. I don\u2019t have to stay up at night wondering when Rico is going to come home or if he is going to come home because I know God is protecting me. I\u2019ve tried to protect myself from being hurt that sometimes I forgot what I means to live and to take risks. I forgot what it meant to not worry because all I was doing was worrying. I felt like I was loosing everything and felt like I was being punished. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I can write and share about it now because I\u2019m in a better head space now and I\u2019ve seen the bigger picture. The Lord\u2019s mercy and His comfort is that bigger picture. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes folks don\u2019t want to tell the truth and shame the devil. Yes I admit I\u2019ve had \u201ctrouble in paradise\u201d and it kept me up many of nights not knowing whether this family God has built would be no more. All the outside had gone away months ago and all the nights being up with mom while she was sick and working full time, going to school, doing virtual school, trying to be active in my walk with Christ, all of that started to take a toll on me. It got so bad at times I felt like I couldn\u2019t breathe BUT GOD!!! He breathes His breath of life and His word says \u201cblessed are you who are hungry now, for you shall be satisfied. Blessed are you who weep now, for you shall laugh.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I might not be laughing at the moment but I\u2019m smiling and I\u2019m happy. Like Mr. Rogers says \u201cit\u2019s a beautiful day in the neighborhood.\u201d It\u2019s always been a beautiful day in the neighborhood because even when I was going through it y\u2019all, God remained the same. He is the same God yesterday, today, and tomorrow. So I thank Him right now for being consistent. I thank Him right now for nit giving up on me. I thank Him right now in spite of my faults. I thank Him right now for loving me when I felt I wasn\u2019t worthy of His love. I thank God for wiping the tears from my eyes and giving me peace. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those who sow in tears shall reap with shouts of joy!

Psalm 126:5<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
You see when I write I don\u2019t write out of discouragement. Yes, sometimes I might write with a heavy heart but that doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m not trusting God. So today I don\u2019t want you to look at the tears I\u2019ve faced lately or will continue to face but I wrote today\u2019s message to encourage you to trust God with EVERYTHING. I know momma going to be around because she is in God\u2019s hands, I know we are going to close on this house when God says it\u2019s time, my kids going to get their act together and be alright, my family is going to stay together and be stronger than ever, my daughter is going to speak to me again, my brother won\u2019t keep hating me, my sister will communicate and respond when I\u2019m checking on her, I\u2019m going to get reliable transportation of my own and find a trustworthy mechanic to help maintain it….I SPEAK LIFE AND NOT DEATH! I CLAIM VICTORY AND NOT DEFEAT. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just so, I tell you, there is joy before the angels of God over one sinner who repents.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Forgive me all my sins dear Lord. Whatever you are doing in this season, please don\u2019t do it without me. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give yo you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

John 14:27<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
HAVE YOUR WAY DEAR GOD, HAVE YOUR WAY! \ud83c\udfb6 In the morning, in the morning it will be all over in the morning \ud83c\udfb6 It\u2019s morning, let\u2019s wake up, get up, and praise the Lord. We going to wipe those tears of sorrow from our eyes and fill them with tears of joy. We going to praise God through the good times and the bad times. We are going to trust God in all ways, we are going to continue to spread His love. We will hold strong in our faith. He will remain our hope. For we claim these many blessings in Jesus name. Amen. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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