{"id":2031,"date":"2022-07-25T01:54:16","date_gmt":"2022-07-25T05:54:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/inspirationallaroundme.org\/index.php\/2022\/07\/25\/fully-healing-takes-time\/"},"modified":"2022-07-25T01:54:16","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T05:54:16","slug":"fully-healing-takes-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inspirationallaroundme.org\/index.php\/2022\/07\/25\/fully-healing-takes-time\/","title":{"rendered":"Fully healing takes time."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Have you ever experienced grief of any sort and the folks around you thought you were taking too long to \u201cget over it\u201d or questioned if you were coping with the situation in a healthy way? How did it make you feel? Were you hesitate to openly express yourself to avoid judgment or ridicule? If any questions apply to you we\u2019d love to hear from you in the comment section below.<\/em> If you or someone you know is experiencing grief, it is okay to seek help. Your help may come from your family, friend, the church, your faith, or even a medical professional. IT IS OKAY TO SEEK HELP, it does not make you look weak! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I lost my dad, I was a freshman in college. I worked part time and went to school and after experiencing 3-4 deaths in a short period of time, I felt like I was caving in due to all the recent losses. I was experiencing what Tatayana and Kelly so graciously labeled it, compound grief. <\/em><\/strong>I had suffered 3 close deaths within my family all within months from each other, and then to loose my dad felt like pure hell. It felt like someone had ripped my heart out and stuck a dagger right through the middle. I was lost. I was torn. I felt like life just wasn\u2019t life anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a while I was angry at God. I couldn\u2019t understand why He would take my daddy. I needed my daddy. I was angry with God and stopped going to church for a while, I stopped reading my Bible, I think I even stopped praying for a while if my memory serves me correctly. I started drinking tequila to help me cope, starting smoking marijuana for a little while to help numb the pain, I let myself go mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. I was lost and if I can be honest with you; I was so hurt over the lost of my dad I didn\u2019t care if I was ever found. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

15 years later I can proudly say I am finally at peace with the loss of my dad. It took a while and sometimes I still feel vulnerable and though it\u2019s been 15 years I still miss him like crazy but knowing I\u2019ll see him again gives me that peace and comfort I need to keep on fighting the good fight. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then when I loss my mom last year due to cancer it felt like my heart was ripped out again. I didn\u2019t want to bury another parent. I didn\u2019t want to bury anyone. I had prayed that my mom, Rico, and the kids would bury me- I didn\u2019t want to feel the pain anymore. God didn\u2019t answer that prayer. Was I angry this time around though?! No I wasn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My mom was diagnosed with throat cancer February 2020 and from the very beginning God gave me undeniable peace that my moms healing may not occur on this side. On May 4, 2021 her healing took place but not in the way everyone wanted it to; God called her home to be with Him in paradise. Was I said; heck yeah! Do I miss my momma; heck yeah! Do I wish she was still here with me; heck no! I rather my mom be with God knowing she fought long and hard until her weak body couldn\u2019t fight anymore. I cry for her because I miss her but she is probably crying more for me because I still have to live in this crazy world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t say I\u2019m selfish now like I was when my dad passed away. I wanted him here on earth even if it meant his body was wrecking with pain due to the sickle cell anemia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On Friday afternoon I attended the home going service of Deanna, Faith\u2019s sister in law. She had been diagnosed with leukemia just three and a half weeks prior to her passing and the night she was transported to MUSC, her room number was C360. I was so happy when I saw that and brought it to Faith\u2019s attention and we rejoiced because we just knew that would be apart of her testimony when she got better and will tell her story. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well on the morning of Sunday, July 17th she laid down her body that was suffering from leukemia and walked into paradise to receive her glorified body. I was in pure shock as I\u2019m sure Faith and the rest of their family was because I just knew she was going to beat this thing. Though she is no longer here leukemia didn\u2019t win, God did, and He had the final say. She may not be here to tell her story but each of us who knew her and love her can share her story through our smile (one her greatest assets), our love for others (her biggest and strongest asset), and by living a life that is pleasing to God. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life there will always be death, there will always be pain, sorrow, joy, you name it. It\u2019s not until we get to Heaven that we will see no more pain, sorrow and death. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With that said, in a sense we will all experience compound grief<\/em>. We will all have times in our lives when we feel like we can\u2019t escape the grips of tears and lonely nights. We will all have dark times in our lives but good thing about it is those times may come but they aren\u2019t here to stay. Although sometimes it feels like sorrow has unpacked his bags and moved in upstairs; it only lasts for a season. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. God\u2019s children I want you to know that we will feel joy again. We will smile again. The tears will dry up one day. The pain will cease. But know these things take time. And in the meantime we must rely on God\u2019s word and His promises to sustain us because the Word tells us in Matthew 5:4 that blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Just because we are going through a season of grief even if it feels like days, months, or even years have gone by and we are still grieving God is with us every step of the way. He doesn\u2019t cut us off and abandon us in our time of grief just because man may think you should \u201cget over it.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no way we can ever truly prepare to say goodbye to our loved ones even if we know their time here on earth is dwindling down due to failed health; find joy knowing you will see them again in eternity. My prayer is it will be in eternity with the Lord. Amen somebody! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Todays message isn\u2019t about trying to tell you the right or wrong way to grief or to heal. Please do the research and understand there are stages to both and there is no time constraint on when you should get to the next step, but you have to get there, you can\u2019t stay stagnant forever. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you or someone you know is suffering a loss, healing from something, or grieving please be encouraged by God\u2019s word and take the time you need to properly heal. Be patient with yourself and or your loved ones. Show grace. It\u2019s a process but again you will feel joy and comfort again one day! It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but one day you will feel comfort. The Lord is near to the broken-hearted and saves the crushed in spirit. <\/strong>He is watching over us and is with us every step of the way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

John 14:27 says, \u201cPeace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let us help one another as we come to realization that fully healing takes time. Learn and understand the process. You are not alone in your season of grief and\/or healing. I\u2019m happy I\u2019m not alone; I had to learn to be open about my feelings and learn to lean on other people. It look me feeling like I was loosing my dern mind to do so- I pray you won\u2019t be as stubborn as I was. Knowing God placed people in my life who could be here to encourage and comfort me while experiencing loss after loss after loss, restores my hope. God will replace the dark and lonely feelings with feelings of peace, joy, and hope. Trust Him! And remember God\u2019s word in Lamentations 3:31-32, \u201cMy Lord definitely won\u2019t reject forever. Although He has caused grief, He will show compassion in measure with His covenant loyalty.\u201d God will pull us out of that dark place just in time, He will not put more on us than we can bear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sisters and brothers God placed it on my heart to tell you to be patient and more understanding with yourselves. Don\u2019t suppress or run away from your feelings. Allow yourself to experience those feelings and learn how to channel your pain in a way that will not cause a rift between you and God. God can guide you through your stages of grief. Even Jesus wept so remember there is nothing new under the sun. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In conclusion, whomever is reading todays message I want you to remember there is a reason from everything under the sun. There is a time to weep and a time to laugh. No matter if is your season of weeping or your season of crying, trust God and lean not on your own understanding. Trust God and allow Him to direct your paths. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I dedicate todays message to my sweet friend Deanna. Your soul is resting and you are now reunited with your husband, Marc. Though you had to give up your physical body when you heard God calling your name on last Sunday, your spiritual soul will live on forever. I\u2019m grateful for the time I had with you as I\u2019m sure Faith and everyone who loves you feels. Your smile will forever be in my mind and in my heart; it reminds me of God\u2019s love for us. Deanna death did not mean goodbye for ever, but our faith teaches us that it is temporary and we will see you again one day. Until that day comes, get your rest Deanna. We love you!! Tell my momma and daddy I said hello please. <\/em>\ud83d\ude09 <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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